Tag archives: self image
Any woman nearing middle age—or in
denial that she is in middle age because once you hit 40, middle age is always
10 years older than you are—has learned never to ask the question: “Does this
make me look fat?”
It’s, of course, an unfair question
because if you’re asking it, you already think you look fat. So basically
you’re asking the recipient of your question to either lie or hurt your
The wise nearly middle-aged woman simply
says to herself, “so what if my ass looks huge, these pants are fun and I ...
Cat calls, whistles, inappropriate under-the-breath
Haven’t we women all felt that sickening
feeling in the pits of our stomachs when we must walk solo passed a group of guys?
We shrink up as small as possible as we slink by, desperately telling
ourselves, “don’t make eye contact, don’t make eye contact” while
simultaneously praying, “please don’t look at me, please don’t look at me.”
These situations drove me crazy in my
20s and early 30s. I’d taken enough women’s lit classes in college to know that
all of these things were degrading ...
You know the phrase “it’s like riding a bike,”
which implies that once you learn how to ride a bike, you’ll never forget. Well
it isn’t true.
I was that kid who learned to ride a bike one
summer and had to relearn the next. I was also the kid who took forever
learning to roller skate and the kid who got a ‘D’ in jump roping in
fifth-grade gym class. To be fair, my gym teacher was a complete bitch who
scarred me for life, but that’s a post for another time.
One of my ...
In preparation for an upcoming family weekend at an indoor
water park, I made a bold move. I found my bikini tucked in the back of the
drawer and put it on—in the dead of winter. Brave!
Shockingly, my pasty-white reflection in the mirror didn’t
cause me to run screaming from the bathroom and into the first pair of
sweatpants I could find. A month of hard training for a half-marathon has
created definition in muscles I didn’t even know I had. Instead of cringing, I
So why then, am I reluctant to wear said ...
Have you ever taken one of those personality tests? Pretty
certain I’ve taken nearly all of them during my career. One told me I was a sea
otter, another a shepherd, another a maximizer and yet another said I was an
I’ve been thinking a lot about personality lately as I try
to figure out what it is I want to do with the rest of my life, professionally
My conclusion is that these personality tests are bullshit.
If an employer really wanted a truthful evaluation, they would require the
questions be filled out by ...