Tag archives: growing up
Back in college, we used to play a little game
called “I Never.” Perhaps you’ve heard of it? One person says something they’ve
never done and those who have done said thing must drink.
It’s an excellent way to learn people’s deepest
darkest secrets, thereby creating lifelong friendships based on fear that the horrible
things you’ve done could be shared. The game creates way stronger bonds than
As my college years passed, more things were taken
off my “I never” list. Some of these items were originally on the “I would
never” list ...
I’ve been thinking of my grandfather lately, which
is odd because he passed away two decades ago and I haven’t thought much about
him since. The ugly truth is that his death didn’t really affect me, and it
wasn’t all that surprising.
Though my grandfather was only 69 at the time, he
had already suffered one heart attack and had developed emphysema caused by
years of smoking a pipe. A number of his siblings had already died of heart
What I remember most about his funeral was my
dad’s grief and how it baffled ...
When you are about to drive 1,000 miles across America’s
heartland, it’s hard not to wonder if you’ll make it or simply fall asleep and
drive into a field. Anyone who has driven across the barren nothingness of
Nebraska will understand.
I intended to contemplate life along this drive,
to process the past six months and to consider what I wanted the future to
hold. Instead, I learned that pure monotony can actually help you stay in the present.
Apparently the drive through Nebraska is similar to being at a meditation
retreat. It is that boring ...
In a recent article in New
York Magazine (Why You
Truly Never Leave High School), author Jennifer Senior points to recent studies that suggest
memories from the ages of 15 to 25 are most vividly retained. Certainly
there are many neurological reasons behind this, but to me it boils down to
this: Why wouldn’t we have the most intense memories from the time during which
we felt things most intensely?
Do you remember what it was like to feel the
body-and-soul anguish when a best friend turned on you? Or the way your heart nearly
burst with joy when ...