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10 Lessons from Living beyond the Comfort Zone Bookmark and Share

Some people embrace change, actually seek it out. Others resist it like a bad parasite. I usually fall into the parasite-resisting category (it’s why I never get sick). 

Last year, when I put a magnet on my fridge that said “life begins at the end of your comfort zone,” I did so to remind myself that good things can happen when you stretch yourself. I’ll admit, though, that at the time, I didn’t expect to stretch very far.

Yet somehow, last summer I set into motion life plans that changed rapidly and sometimes on a daily basis ...

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I Blame My BFFs for the Voices in My Head Bookmark and Share

When I was a child, my dad occasionally had the opportunity to bid for a better job (he worked for the railroad) that would require relocating to a new city. As a shy kid, nothing is more terrifying—except maybe doing a demonstration speech in a required public speaking course— than having to make new friends.

So I did what I had to do. I screamed and cried and pleaded: “please don’t make me leave my friends.” We never moved. Not sure how much of that was my fault.

When my husband has periodically broached the subject of moving ...

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Have You Moved for Love? Bookmark and Share

When I told the owner of the yoga studio I go to that today was my last class because I was moving, he asked if I was moving for love. My initial thought was “no” because I was thinking only of romantic love. But when I told him I was moving for family, his response was immediate, “well, that’s love, isn’t it?”

I’ve been asked frequently why we’re moving to Milwaukee and I’ve stumbled over the answer every time. Our decision evolved so quickly and seemed so complicated that it was a question I couldn ...

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Home Alone: What Irrational Phobias Can’t You Shake? Bookmark and Share

Thanks to the generosity of a coworker, my daughter and I are living for two weeks in a beautiful home snuggled in the foothills of the Rocky Mountains. We’ve seen deer, fox, wild turkeys. It’s a vacationer’s dream and my basic nightmare.

The problem? The woman who owns the home is gone most of the time. “Yay!” you might say. Not me. Nothing fills my heart with terror more than being in a big empty house at midnight.

No doubt I’m not the only one with this fear, but my version of it seems a bit ...

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More Than Fine Bookmark and Share

Until a few years ago, I had led a very fine lifeemphasis on fine. My response to any question was "fine." In our early years together, my "fineness"drove my husband crazy. He was constantly asking me how everything could be fine all of the time. He also couldn't understand why I had no opinion about anythingany and every option was OK.

The reason my life was so fine was not because I had some kind of karmic protection. Rather, I was so terrified of bad things happening that I never took any risk that could change ...

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