Surviving Midlife Requires a Little Help from Your Friends Bookmark and Share

A friend of mine turned 41 last month, and she mentioned that she wanted her 30s back. I found her comment intriguing because at the ripe old age of 42, I (usually) don’t feel that way at all.

Sure, I wouldn’t mind my 30-something metabolism and lack of age spots, but what I recall of my 30s is that they were some of the most stressful years of my life. You couldn’t pay me enough to repeat them.

As I pondered my friend’s statement, though, I remembered how I felt turning 41. It kind of sucked ...

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A Night in My College Town Made Me Feel Young -- and Really Old Bookmark and Share

A Night in My College Town Made Me Feel Young -- and Really Old

If you want to feel delightfully young and horrifically ancient at the same time, go out on a Saturday night with your former roommate and your husbands in the town you where you went to college.

This is the lesson I learned recently while sipping a sugary Long Island iced tea the size of a Big Gulp (only $4!). This disgusting concoction seemed like a great idea after four glasses of wine and a comment from the bartender that I was old enough to be his mother.

OK, so that’s an exaggeration. What actually happened is I told the ...

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I’m Grateful Anger No Longer Consumes Me Bookmark and Share

I’m Grateful Anger No Longer Consumes Me

This morning as I lay on the living floor doing extremely uncomfortable physical therapy exercises for my neck, an unexpected thought popped into my head: I am so grateful I’m not angry all the time any more.

Tomorrow is Thanksgiving so feelings of gratitude shouldn’t be surprising, but I wasn’t quite sure where this one came from. Yet, it is truly what I am most thankful for this year.

When I returned to work full time last February, my biggest fear was turning back into “scary mommy.” I had spent the previous two years trying to figure ...

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The Simple Beauty of a Monday Birthday Bookmark and Share

The Simple Beauty of a Monday Birthday

When my alarm started singing at 5:30 this morning, I quickly hit snooze and snuggled under the covers to lament about how Monday is the worst day to have a birthday.

Calling in sick on your birthday is highly suspicious, so I pulled my groggy butt out of bed and attempted to prepare myself for the first day of what will be an exhausting week.

In recent years I’ve started this weird habit on my birthday of asking myself, “If I died today, would I be happy?” It sounds morbid, but it helps keep me honest.

 Today’s ...

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A Beautiful Fall into Middle Age Bookmark and Share

A Beautiful Fall into Middle Age

It happens every September. That moment when I notice how the sky has taken on a brilliant blue hue that happens only in fall. The angle of the sun hits in a way that makes everything glow. The air takes on a crispness even when the temps are high.

 It’s at that moment each year when my heart sings, full of joy I can hardly contain. Maybe it’s because I was born in October, but fall has always been my favorite season. The world seems at its most exquisite.

 

When I entered my 40s two years ago, I ...

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